21 12 / 2011

For our Holiday Social, I created a ballot of Booktini’s 2011 Literary Selections and asked every member to vote on their favorite bookclub read during our Winter/Spring season, and our Summer/Fall season.

The Darkest Child by Delores Phillips was the favorite for Winter/Spring. We read it in May, and even though it was sad and gruesome, it was also extremely well written and spellbinding. I can’t wait until Phillips comes out with another book.

The fav of the Summer/Fall season was Demetria L. Lucas’ A Belle In Brooklyn. Her dating stories were quite entertaining and provided for an awesome discussion during our fall retreat in October.

The Darkest Child was then voted as our favorite Literary Selection of 2011.

The voting took place just within the Oakland/Bay Area* chapter. The plan is to next year have an official vote including all members. I think it would be great to spread the word about our favorite books and some how show appreciation to the writers who birthed them.

*Our local chapter is opening membership for 2012. If you’re interested, email booktini@gmail.com for more info.

27 10 / 2011

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Pics from Booktini’s Getting to Happy Retreat, October 14-16th in Santa Cruz. Our October Literary Selection was A Belle in Brooklyn by Demetria Lucas.

After our Drinks & Discussion, we celebrated Booktini’s 2nd anniversary with a (chocolate) cake showcasing all of the books we’ve read since our first retreat in San Diego in 2010.

19 10 / 2011

I actually liked it. And this from a chick who despises relationship books. Even though the title, A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go To Girl For Living Your Best Single Life, may have you thinking you’ll walk away with a wealth of knowledge on how to live it up as a single lady, it’s more memoir than guide book. You’ll be inundated with Lucas’ dating life as a twenty something in New York. And DC. And Atlanta…and LA..and Paris. And you will be entertained.

She’s no Carrie Bradshaw, but she has lived an interesting life with a few hilarious dating mishaps and adventures that most sociable Black women may be able to identify with. I commend her for the misleading title. Young women are yearning for guidance in the dating world, so I’m sure they’re snatching this book up in droves, only to see that the most you will really learn is to HAVE FUN, throw caution to the wind, and don’t limit yourself when it comes dating.

After reading this book, I felt like Lucas succeeded where Helena Andrews may have not have hit the ball out of the park with her memoir, Bitch is the New Black. Both books provided two different subject matters (Andrews’ memoir was more about lifestyle and career), but Lucas kept me entertained and turning the page, whereas Andrew’s consistently grabbed my attention but lost it multiple times when sharing stories that were just plain boring (I still enjoyed it overall because of her fresh perspective).

My book club had a loooong, raucous discussion about the book (I had six pages full of discussion questions, and no we did not get to all of them) and in the end, they all agreed that they would read a sequel.

I’d recommend this book for women under 35 (older women may be too far removed and find it juvenile), anyone looking for chick lit, and especially for young women headed to college (I sure wish someone had told me "No letters, no numbers" before I stepped foot on anyone’s campus!)

Grade: B

13 10 / 2011

"When a guy has personality and something to say, he doesn’t have to spend money to be memorable."

A Belle in Brooklyn by Demetria L. Lucas, pg. 130

11 10 / 2011

"I remember talking to a bunch of guys once about what women need to know most about men, and many said that men don’t know it all. They act as if they do, of course. But generally, when a man effs up, it’s not with the intent to do so. Sometimes you’ve just got to tell him what he did or is doing wrong."

from A Belle in Brooklyn by Demetria L. Lucas, pg 116

30 9 / 2011

October Book Club Selection: A Belle In Brooklyn
October is the month that Booktini has set aside to have our yearly retreat of friendship, readings, and drinks. Sounds corny, but after last year’s adventure in San Diego, we decided we had to make this a yearly event. We read “Getting To Happy”, and since the title of the book describes EXACTLY what happened when we met up for the weekend, we decided that the name will have to stay.
This year for our “Getting to Happy” retreat, we’ll be heading to Santa Cruz to spend the weekend in a rented beach house. The house is FABULOUS (with enough room for 20, even though only 13 of us will be in attendance). We’ll be having a girls night slumber party that Friday, complete with drinking games, jello shots, cupcakes and the like.
That Saturday, we’ll wake up to a morning of breakfast and exercise. Afterwards we’re settle in to our seminars:
Being Booktini - discussing expansion and changes since we’re developing other chapters; 
Drinks & Discussion - discussing our October Literary Selection over lunch and drinks, and also celebrating Booktini’s 2 year anniversary; 
Getting to Happy - led by our resident therapist, this is a seminar where we open up about the changes we want to make in our lives, and then setting realistic goals to make those changes a reality and giving an ipdate on last year’s seminar; 
Mixology 101 - we’re taught how to mix three new Signature drinks.
Then we’ll end the night by getting dressed up and hitting the town. The next day, we’ll end the retreat with a Sunday brunch. Sounds like a lot, right?
During the retreat, we’ll be discussing Demtria L. Lucas’ new memoir, A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to-girl For Advice on Living your Best Single Life. I’d initially wanted us to read Iyanla Vanzant’s Peace from Broken Pieces, since along with liquor and shenanigans during the weekend, we try to reflect on our current lives, and work on growth for the future. The majority, however, voted on reading Lucas’ take on enjoying the single life.
Back in 2008, I stumbled upon Lucas’ blog, A Belle in Brooklyn, and instantly added it to my list of favs, mainly because she reminded me so much of the writings in my own blog: men, relationships, disastrous dates, and the joys and pitfalls of my mid-20s.
Even though the book’s selling point is helping women lead their best single life, and I’m not neccessarily single, if it contains any of the stories from her earlier blogging days, I’m sure I’ll enjoy the stories within. I’m also leading the discussion for this one, which I think will be great reading material for a girly gab fest.

October Book Club Selection: A Belle In Brooklyn

October is the month that Booktini has set aside to have our yearly retreat of friendship, readings, and drinks. Sounds corny, but after last year’s adventure in San Diego, we decided we had to make this a yearly event. We read “Getting To Happy”, and since the title of the book describes EXACTLY what happened when we met up for the weekend, we decided that the name will have to stay.

This year for our “Getting to Happy” retreat, we’ll be heading to Santa Cruz to spend the weekend in a rented beach house. The house is FABULOUS (with enough room for 20, even though only 13 of us will be in attendance). We’ll be having a girls night slumber party that Friday, complete with drinking games, jello shots, cupcakes and the like.

That Saturday, we’ll wake up to a morning of breakfast and exercise. Afterwards we’re settle in to our seminars:

  • Being Booktini - discussing expansion and changes since we’re developing other chapters;
  • Drinks & Discussion - discussing our October Literary Selection over lunch and drinks, and also celebrating Booktini’s 2 year anniversary;
  • Getting to Happy - led by our resident therapist, this is a seminar where we open up about the changes we want to make in our lives, and then setting realistic goals to make those changes a reality and giving an ipdate on last year’s seminar;
  • Mixology 101 - we’re taught how to mix three new Signature drinks.

Then we’ll end the night by getting dressed up and hitting the town. The next day, we’ll end the retreat with a Sunday brunch. Sounds like a lot, right?

During the retreat, we’ll be discussing Demtria L. Lucas’ new memoir, A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to-girl For Advice on Living your Best Single Life. I’d initially wanted us to read Iyanla Vanzant’s Peace from Broken Pieces, since along with liquor and shenanigans during the weekend, we try to reflect on our current lives, and work on growth for the future. The majority, however, voted on reading Lucas’ take on enjoying the single life.

Back in 2008, I stumbled upon Lucas’ blog, A Belle in Brooklyn, and instantly added it to my list of favs, mainly because she reminded me so much of the writings in my own blog: men, relationships, disastrous dates, and the joys and pitfalls of my mid-20s.

Even though the book’s selling point is helping women lead their best single life, and I’m not neccessarily single, if it contains any of the stories from her earlier blogging days, I’m sure I’ll enjoy the stories within. I’m also leading the discussion for this one, which I think will be great reading material for a girly gab fest.